This is the caption I meant to post with my last NY pic that I forgot to save bc I’m a genius like that.
TW, topic is assault.
Both times I’ve gone to NYC since November, I got a lot of DMs asking if I was scared to go back. If you’re newer here—6 months ago on a work trip to NYC I was sexually assaulted by three men near Times Square. I have two faint scars on my face that will now be lifelong reminders of the incident (as if anyone needs that). After it happened, a lot of people blamed NY and big cities, but violence against women happens everywhere. I’ve been physically abused in Georgia, sexually harassed in Vermont, grabbed and followed in Kentucky....the point is it’s not NY, and that’s why I continue to go. NOTHING about what happened to me makes me blame where I was or fear where I was. The blame lies solely on a society that perpetuates a culture where that sort of behavior is ok and with the people who commit those sort of violent acts against women. It’s not NY’s fault three drunk men attacked me just like it’s not Georgia’s fault I was in an abusive relationship, just like it’s not Vermont’s fault a coworker tried to grope me (how sad is it that I can add etc etc etc to that?!). Blame rape culture, not the individual places where it plays out because it plays out everywhere. I intend no shade or shame to people who are triggered by where things happened; everyone’s story and situation is unique as is their healing process. For me, locational fear is not necessarily a factor. Locations can trigger feelings and emotions, but I don’t allow that to hold me back, I use that as an opportunity to work through those feelings so I can tackle them and work through them. I’ve moved and traveled lot in my life so that’s something I’ve developed over time. I hope that answers some of your questions!
Should I do a separate post on how I manage locational triggers?? Let me know below if you’d be interested. #headhighheartforward
Photo by @ljbnyc1 who is super talented and was a pleasure to shoot with. 👍🏻 Outfit tagged as per usu. 😆
I wrote a really long and thoughtful caption in response to some questions I got about visiting NYC after what happened last November, but my ig drafts didn’t save it and neither did I. So instead of being thoughtful and reflective, here’s a pic from my first time shooting with @ljbnyc1. 😂 I’ll post the thoughtful caption tomorrow. How many more times do you think it’ll take before I remember to save a back up of my captions in notes? I have more than 50 captions already written in notes anyway, you’d think I’d be past the point of ig draft deletion being an issue. 🤦🏻♀️ Outfit tagged. 🤸♂️
Did you know that up to 70% of women are wearing the wrong sports bra, and as many as 1 in 5 women avoid exercise because they don't have the right one? I have definitely avoided certain types of exercise (running....) b/c nothing I own properly supports my chest. I have a whole drawer full of sports bras that are designated as “content creation only” or “gentle yoga only” because it’s so hard for me to find cute, comfortable, supportive sports bras I can do vigorous exercise and/or inversions in, and most of the ones I own just don’t cut it. I can genuinely say that is not the case with the @reebok@reebokwomens Pure Move bra. I tested mine hiking, running around my neighborhood with my dog (yes I ran for you guys! Lol), and as you can see, inverting. It passed! Let me know below if you want more specifics about how it fit or functioned, sizing or how they stepped it up to make something for women of all body types, and check out my stories or link in bio to buy one (or several) of your own! #puremovebra#ad
Throwing it back to when I met @spencerbentley_creates and @hollybentley_yoga by the Brooklyn Bridge-one of those places where every instagrammer in NY has to create content. Can you blame us tho? ;) I’m going to be heading back to NY this week, but for the first time in a year and a half it’s not for work!!! Well, I’m working on a project, but it’s not for my primary job, and will still have to do work for my job will I’m there bc #adulting. BUT, I’m finally going to have some time to go to all the yoga classes I’ve wanted to take, meet up with old friends, and...create some new content. Lol. Have any class recommendations or gluten free restaurants I should try? Let me know below! #headhighheartforward
When your hat holds a joint and your shirt has a sneaky panda (zoom in to see what she’s eating), you go out and take pics. 😆 #ad Alternative caption: When you smoke pot and you like clothes, why not combine the two? Silly captions aside, more and more I’m trying to incorporate sustainability into the things I purchase as a consumer. I do this with my food, with the cannabis I smoke, and am trying to be more responsible with my apparel choices as well. My cute hat and shirt @chieftonsupply. Everything they make is made from sustainable textiles. How do you incorporate responsibility into your consumption?
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#elevatedapparel#chieftonsupply#chieftonaf and HAPPY 420!
In my last post I mentioned coming off my antidepressants. I got a lot of questions in my DMs about my experience. The most common was about withdrawal, the next about why, and the third was about what happened after. I’m working on a blog about my experience that I hope to get published when I kick this cold to the curb. But in the mean time, all of those questions raised something very valid that I want to address first. I am not a mental health professional and don’t claim to be. All of my experiences with my mental health are my personal experiences. I can only speak to what I went through and what worked for me. Coming off my meds was a personal decision that I made under the guidance of a psychiatrist. Please don’t take mental health advice from strangers on the internet. I may know a lot about depression, OCD, anxiety, bi-polar disorder, and whatever else I have, but what I know is either general info about those conditions or how they affect me; not how they impact others. When it comes to your mental health, only you and qualified professionals know best.
I think that’s super important to say and for everyone to hear. With that being said, I am absolutely here for y’all. If you’re struggling and want advice on how to tell someone or ask for help, if you want to know different ways to support people with mental illness, if you need resources, if you just need to connect with someone like you, etc., etc. I love you guys and want to support you like you’ve supported me all these years. Let’s start more conversations about mental health so that more people feel comfortable seeking help. Let’s start more conversations about mental health so that the stigmas break down. Let’s start more conversations about mental health so that we can learn from each other and connect with each other. That’s why I talk about mine. #breakthestigma#headhighheartforward#mentalhealthawareness
Wearing @werkshop moths. #teamwerkshop
#ad The more I talk about my mental health the more I get asked what I do to help myself when my depression or anxiety symptoms are difficult to deal with. My number one answer is having a good support system. Second is time outside with my pets (Cailey is running around me somewhere out of frame). Third is cannabis. I came off my antidepressants after over 15 years on them and started having severe panic attacks. Rather than go back on medication, I incorporated CBD mixed 1:1 with THC into my routine. I am in no way advocating going off meds and onto cannabis on your own. Always manage your mental health under the care of a professional. What i am advocating for is finding something that works for you. Find your tools and stock your tool box. They’re different for everyone. For me, using cannabis is one of those tools. For the panda on my shirt it is too. 😉 This cute shirt is from cannabis lifestyle apparel company @chieftonsupply . I love wearing it because it’s cute, but also b/c it’s a good canna conversation starter. Do you use cannabis products whether THC, CBD, or Hemp?? Let me know! #chieftonsupply#chieftonaf#elevatedapparel
Those of you who follow my stories know I love to meal prep for the week ahead; especially my lunches. It helps me make sure I’m eating good meals without spending tons of money each week, and keeps me from making less healthy food choices when I’m hangry and in a time crunch. Lately, I’ve been feeling the need to shake up my stale meal prep a bit which is one of the reasons I love @greenchef. Green Chef offers a new menu each week, and caters to a variety of different diet plans. Fellow celiacs, hey have a completely gluten free menu so you can enjoy the recipes as intended w/o having to throw out or giveaway ingredients you can’t use (#whocanrelate?). I choose meals for two and then have all my lunches (and a dinner, you get diff recipes) for the week. When I’m feeling in a rut, or my schedule is thrown off by traveling, @greenchef helps me get back in the groove of making healthy meals for my week ahead. And if having a gluten free menu wasn’t enough, all the ingredients are certified organic.
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Get out of your comfort zone with a selfie.
Prompt for tomorrow:Take a selfie with no make-up. Don’t focus too much on the lighting or the angles. Just embrace who you are and how you look and try to capture the essence of your being through your photo. And try to choose a photo you took within the first 5 shots (Lord knows we usually go through 100 shots just to find one, but really you are beautiful in them all). _______
I’m def guilty of hunting down the right light, the right angles and right filter, but I’m never one to shy away from a good selfie in my stories. In feed is a bit different. It doesn’t fit with my normal content and isn’t something I’d normally feel compelled to post—maybe with makeup in a stylized portrait shoot, but i haven’t posted a selfie on this feed in years. As my account has grown, the aesthetics of my feed have changed a lot and become 99% curated content, either for brands or for personal engagement to get people to read my captions—so why would people want to see a selfie from me when they’re here for the yoga or my normal style of content? That’s what I’ve been hung up on, and I need to let that shit go (she says while still posting a yoga shot as the main frame of this—I’m a work in progress, k? 😬). I guess it just goes to show that no matter how comfortable we are with ourselves, we still have insecurities about our appearance (and/or the appearance of our social media accounts...ugh this is eye opening). Mine happen to be totally instagram influencer based these days and are admittedly kind of ridiculous; like no make up for yoga is fine, but selfies-make up or not-are off the table? Ok cheryl.....🙄. This challenge is making me reconsider some things. How about you? Show is your selfies!
Swipe for some selfie action-I don’t take a lot of them w/o make up these days. I also need to work on that. Working in the beauty industry and having a curated feed are no excuse not to document me feeling myself w/o make up too!
Nourish your body.
I nourish my body in three ways. I spend time outdoors which helps me relax, lowering my stress levels. I eat a balanced diet and eat food that makes me feel good inside which makes me have more energy throughout the day. Plus, I love to cook! And I do yoga and various other forms of activities that keep me moving around because it makes my body feel good and helps improve my mood. I do things that nourish my body because they help nourish my mind as well as allow me to be active. I do How well do you nourish your body and how can you improve this?
Clean up your mental diet.
Eating well and keeping active makes my body feel good (and has mood boosting). Changing the way I think about things keeps me feeling good mentally. My internal dialogue was my biggest problem for a lot of my life. I told myself i was ugly, too large, not smart enough, not pretty, etc. etc. And the more I thought it, the more I believed it. Through therapy, yoga, and mindfulness I work regularly to retrain my brain. If I want to feel better about myself or a situation I’m in, my thoughts need to reinforce that. If you want to change the way you feel about something, you need to change the way you think about it-at least I think so. How about you?
Journal about a time you were faced with a tough situation and how you pulled through it.
When I was applying to law school, I had to face the fact that several years of heavy drug use had drastically impacted my grades in college and how I was going to explain it in my personal essays. I was faced w/being honest, owning my addiction and it’s impact, and hoping they’d take a chance on me, OR making up an excuse and hiding from my past. I chose the former. I took responsibility for the impact of my addiction and was open about my recovery, and they took a chance on me. Being accepted into multiple law schools after being completely transparent about one of the hardest times in my life made me realize that bringing open about my experiences w/addiction was possible and was the first time I felt people had faith in me again. I’m so glad I made the decision i did.
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#JOURNEYTOLOVEME MARCH 23 (I owe y’all today’s prompt for the 22nd still). Do something for someone else.
It’s important to step outside yourself and do things for others. No matter where you are on your journey through life, helping others is paramount. Spreading kindness in the form of good deeds is a huge way to create a positive impact. For this prompt, we ask you to journal about a time you spent your time serving others or how doing something for someone else has created an impact (be it for you or for them). Outside of Instagram, I serve others in ways i don’t talk about often. It’s not because i don’t feel comfortable sharing, but sometimes on social media, sharing the work we do for others can be misconstrued as an attempt for gain attention or garner further influence....and in one particular area, this is a very touchy subject for me.
As my long time followers know, I am an addict. I heavily abused drugs for years when I was college and now talk about my past struggles with addiction openly. What I don’t always share is what I do to help other addicts. I raise awareness by lecturing annually at the medical school where my parents teach, both on the face of addiction (me being the example of an addict outside the norm of societal stereotypes, as well as an example of how physicians treat people who are open about addiction even over a decade later), and on rebuilding life after. I also am still an active member of the recovery group I attended after I stopped using hard drugs. I’ve sponsored people for years and work with them to help them maintain their sobriety with the hope that I can help them turn their lives around like I did mine. Working with addicts and talking openly about my addiction is difficult and often triggering, but it’s some of the most rewarding work i do. I don’t do it for the personal benefits, although they are numerous; i do it because i want to help others move past a terrible disease and learn that there is life after addiction. That you can move past the stereotypes and rebuild relationships and become a happier person living a more fulfilled life.
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#JOURNEYTOLOVEME Catch Up
What is it that satisfies your soul? This one was an easy prompt for me. Spending time outside-nature feeds my soul. I spend time outdoors as often as possible. Bonus soul nourishment when my fur babies are with me.
Comparing myself to others impacted my mental health and interpersonal relationships in the past. Before Instagram, I would obsess over the way other ppl I knew looked and try to make myself look like them or have the physical traits i admired in them. I became more focused on my physical appearance than on my relationships; except my relationship with food and exercise.
And with social media....oh man. With yoga specifically I used to compare my asana to others. I got competitive with strangers behind the screen to have better form, more flexibility, more followers, etc. If i saw someone’s practice advancing quickly, I would get very down on myself for not advancing as fast. If someone’s account grew faster than mine I’d think i wasn’t doing enough....etc etc.
i put these things in the past tense because i don’t do them often anymore. Through yoga and mindfulness, and work on myself, I’ve learned to let go of comparing myself to others because it always does more harm than good. Now if I find myself comparing myself to others, I flip my internal dialogue. I start complimenting myself until all I can think are happy thoughts. Give it a try! March 21:
Stand in front of the mirror naked.
Years ago this would lead me down a spiral of self hate and starvation. Or self hate and excercise abuse or drug use. Years ago the mirror was my enemy.
I won’t say it’s now my friend, but i will say it no longer scares me. Just like in my answer above, I’ve learned to change my internal dialogue. What you think, you believe. If i get down on myself when I look in the mirror I make myself think only positive thoughts over and over. I think hat’s one of the reasons i no longer fear mirrors-I’ve trained myself to think nice things about myself when i look in one, so I approach them with a much better attitude than I used to.
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