How are you managing your relationship with social media? I took a tiny, but necessary break to organize my feelings around it. I have an insanely great life and I'm very privileged to say that one of the worst parts is reading other people's miserable interpretations of who I am. Of course the positive outweighs the negative, but we are biologically wired to pay attention to the negative because historically, other people's opinion of us and our survival were directly correlated. Imagine it’s 1619 and there’s a tribe meeting where they’re discussing your looks and value. Wouldn’t you be obsessed with finding out what was said? That town meeting is happening 24/7 for all of us and thus, we become addicts. Well, just like I had to learn to outsmart my DNA in concerns to my diet (yeah, no boo we're not having pizza again today), I'm committing to do the same for this glitch in my Matrix by seeking ways to limit my interaction with constant feedback. I was really inspired by @champagnepapi recently changing his IG so that only people he follows can comment bc why give ppl who would never have an opportunity to speak to you the power to ruin your mood? Also my friend @talya.macedo removed comments on her Insta Stories and I thought that was quite powerful since usually, that's just a place to collect praise. I'm trying to find a system that works for me as my brand is largely about promoting conversation and I LOVE sharing personal things in support of that. That being said, would love to hear your system for managing the intake of OPO (other people's opinions) on social media
LADIES can I ask a private question? What is your go-to method for your BIG O? I spoke with 5 women about theirs & other topics surrounding pleasure including: secret erogenous zones, explosive combinations and toys. This convo was sponsored by @loversstores, you can head to the link in my bio to checkout their store or go to my YouTube channel to watch this full video #wearelovers
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I’ve spent a lot of years setting up Valentine’s Day to be my Super Bowl. It’s not always been a pretty grind but to see how far I’ve come is beautiful. Cheers to my most wonderful time of the year and to everyone who’s seen my hustle every step (and misstep) of the way ❤️
#ad What won’t you compromise on for love or pleasure? They say relationships are all about compromise but sometimes that can mean, you have yours and I have mine! We have completely separate work spaces that couldn't look more different, but that space to cater to our independent needs has brought us closer together 💑. Just like with our K-Y® Yours+Mine® Couples Lubricants®, he got his, I got mine and everyone gets what they want without needing to want the exact same things. #GetWhatYouWant this Valentine's Day by hitting the link in my bio to learn more.
The face you make when your joke lands and then hits the Quan. Honestly, it’s stupid how good Steve is at his job and I’m hella grateful to continue to be invited. Catch me on tomorrow’s episode only on @stevetvshow
Happy black history month and birthday to this man who has been an exceptional teacher/ healer/ muse for me. Your voice has been the soundtrack of every new romance and countless joyful memories. Thank you for your work and your example ❤️
“I want to love you, and treat you right
I want to love you, every day and every night
We'll be together, with a roof right over our heads
We'll share the shelter, of my single bed
We'll share the same room, yeah! For Jah provide the bread
Is this love?”
What's something unexpected you love enough to have made into a necklace? After attending Glamour Women of the Year in NYC on behalf of @paragard_iud, which also happens to be my birth control of choice for the past three years, I was ready to make my gratitude official. #GlamourWOTY was all about female leadership and I was beyond proud to be there repping a brand that has changed my life #Paragard#Sponsored
It’s much easier to strive for your highest self while being loved by someone who thinks highly of you. Yesterday @enjoyjaredbrady said to me, “nothing about your character frustrates me.” It was a throw away comment, not the point of the discussion but (being the raging narcissist that I can be 🤗) it’s all I can think about today. Notice he didn’t say I’m void of character flaws, just that he has patience for them. They say the best relationships happen between whole people but really, what is whole? We are all (or should be) a consistent work in progress. If growth and connection were meant to happen in self-contained environments, roses would grow out of rocks. What I’m trying to say is, I’m not and may never be a completely great person, but striving daily to be a better one, is a whole lot easier when I feel not just loved, but LIKED, by the person closest to me.
Thank you @coryphoto for taking this photo!!