Everyone has their own way of responding to the gloom and doom. Can I offer an alternative? It’s not for everybody. Knowing you, you’ll like it that way. I’m not the doctor that prescribes the same antibiotics to every patient he sees. I'm more like an exorcist that knows of a rare plant to alleviate this particular darkness-- and tonight we have the final strain in our possession. #photography#you#me
Last night I was talking to Sahal and she told me that she lost 5 friends over this photoshoot. 5 friends? It seems a bit extreme. But she's from a small town and that's how people leverage other people. They threaten to disown you if you don't behave the way they approve of. Let's be honest can you blame them? A girl can't be sticking her head out like that. A girl can't be running around acting 'free'. That would just make everyone else look lame. But some people are strong enough to accept the consequences. They rather their 'friends' hate them for living, than hate their 'friends' for holding them back. Man, when you have to put the word 'friends' in quotes you know it's time to move on. Today they disapprove her photoshoot. Tomorrow they disapprove her husband, and then her baby's name. I like to think that with every picture we took... we were nipping that possible future in the bud. I was still thinking about it this morning. But for her it was already just an anecdote. #lingerieatnight
Since I was a kid I've been hearing people say "Don't be afraid of the unknown." Last night I learned 2 things about the unknown. #1. It's not only the BIG unknowns that we learn from. Sometimes it's the small ones. Like meeting a girl online. Like getting into her car. Like letting her picking the restaurant. "I'm already so far out of my comfort zone why stop now?" she said. That's how I knew I was with the right person. We ordered nachos. We ordered wings. I let her pick the sauce. I was being polite. She picked a spicy honey sauce. Gross. But when the food arrived... those wings... were the best thing that I had tasted all week. The unknown. It's the little yeses that you say to yourself on Monday that will facilitate the bigger yeses that you will need to say to survive until Friday. Nod your head enough and you'll notice that it actually requires an effort to stop-- and start shaking it. #2. If you REALLY want to test your fear of the unknown here's the best trick: put all your decision making in the hands of another person for a few hours. Let someone else choose what you will wear, what music you play in the car, and what you will eat. I like to play this game with my best friends where we go out to dinner and everyone orders for someone else. It like Secret Santa with food. That's why taking pictures of complete strangers rules. It's the ultimate unknown. But you only get a few hours at the beginning before the comfortable patterns start to emerge. So learn from it quickly. You don't have to make ALL the decisions. A photoshoot is not a dictatorship. But it's not a democracy either. It's more like a monarchy. And guess what? It's your job to protect the queen. Use the energy of this new situation you're both in to find something new. Either one of you can take the lead. Just make sure she looks good doing it. ::: When was the last time YOU dove into the unknown?
So many people will die never knowing the ultimate goal. Society has so successfully indoctrinated us with toxic daily messages that some of us have lost the inner compass. Society functions best when you forget that it's not about money. It's not about fame. It's not about having a thick ass. The ultimate goal is to express your authentic self. Everything else you may experience in life that's not in service to this idea is just a distraction. Don't get me wrong. I'm not anti-society. I don't believe in A's with circles around them. I understand why we need society-at-large. Hell, I love growing, operating, eating, making love and thriving within it. But there comes a point in your evolution when you realize that the old way isn't working anymore. Following the crowd isn't working anymore. You may even come to realize the ugly truth: The Crowd Is More Lost Than You Are. Soon a new vision of the world starts growing inside of you. You see a new path with a better set of rules. You start looking completely crazy to others. But you know that you're not crazy. This is when your ideas need protection. Realize that the only chance for your ideas to survive in a world that's trying to extinguish them is to create or join a group of like-minded people. You need to find a society... within the society. In his book 'Think And Grow Rich', Napoleon Hill talks about it. He calls it the 'Master Mind'. It's when you surround yourself with people who's sum thinking is more than the individual parts. Religious people call it the 'Inner Circle'. You need to find something like that. People that think like you do -- so you're able to protect the longevity of your non-mainstream ideology. But some people don't have access to others who think like they do. They may be isolated or in a small town. They may be under the influence of a heavy-handed family. Or maybe they just don't have the courage to express it to the world yet. For all those people on the sidelines... I created The Mutual Inspiration Society. I get you. I understand why you do what you do. I'm watching you. I'm rooting for you.
The 10 Characteristics Of The Coolest Girls I Met In The Past Year: 1. They are passionate about something bigger than themselves. 2. They embrace their bodies no matter what size it is. 3. They smile. 4. They read. 5. They’re not in their mind all the time, they’re in the moment. 6. They have vocabulary. Everything isn't just 'nice'. Sometimes it's “unique”, sometimes it's “flattering”, sometimes it's “fierce beyond belief”. 7. They’re fearless where it counts. 8. They follow their friends on Instagram not just celebrities. 9. They calm me. 10. They excite me.