“Time is more valuable than money. You can get more money, but you cannot get more time”. Starting the year with a timepiece from @Fossil. It might take me a minute to tell the time, but I can play music and take calls using my watch. 🤷🏾♀️(Head to my story) #fossil#mamacax#ad
One of my follower’s (call him Mr. A) message reads “Mamacaxx I would like to talk to you about accepting myself, I had [type of cancer ] x years ago and still can't accept my appearance” (omitting some of the message for anonymity)
It’s not the first time I’ve received such message, often times from people with large visible scars or burn- mainly in the face area and often times identifying as having a deformity.
I often share my journey to self acceptance and think back to the time shortly after my surgery when I was allowed to remove the bandages and broke down in tears, in disgust I didn’t look at my body for 2 whole weeks. Yes I have come a long way but I still don’t have all the answers.
With the rise of social media several influencer/ bloggers have taken the role of motivators, urging their followers to love themselves and with eye roll worthy sayings like “ if I can do it so can you” but the truth is we have thousands and millions of followers and in our little positive bubbles we get the virtual support that feeds our ego and self esteem. Body positive has become side by side picture of girls showing their bloated or fat tummy, showcasing curvy bodies but not too big, some cellulite but not too much, anything still within the spectrum of things palatable by our society.
Mr. A unfortunately I can’t tell you how to love yourself, Our experiences/solutions are not one size fits all. What I do know Mr. A is that you seem to have raised fine children and present in their lives, you work hard on bettering yourself by working out and finding ways to accept yourself. What I do know is that you have amazing eyebrows. (I’m a sucker for good brows). I can only imagine what those close to you can attest to.
I’ll leave you with a quote from a recent read “It is imperative to remember that self-love and self-acceptance have nothing to do with your physical appearance. It’s about the emotional peace and balance that you get by being in a healthy mental, spiritual, and physical state”
May your best days be yet to come!
Lucky color of the year according to me : Cobalt blue
New year’s resolution has gotten a bad rep but every year I set a new resolution and I think you should to. A resolution is simply what you intend to do in the upcoming year therefore I think anyone who is ambitious and hopeful should set them. The problem lies in thinking that the “golden date” Jan 1st is your ONLY reset button. I have A weekly resolution, monthly resolution AND yearly resolution. for example a resolution for the year might be to strengthen my bond with my family and friends, where as my monthly resolution will be support 3 of my friends and a weekly resolution will be have lunch with 1 friend. The weekly and monthly resolutions are plans to help accomplish the bigger goal. And that rule can be applied to anything in your life, switching career, start a family, run a marathon, buy a house etc...
It’s important not to beat yourself up if you don’t manage to accomplish your goal because there’s always another year + the rest of your life. A new year is not necessarily a new chapter in your book of life, sometimes it’s simply a new paragraph and an opportunity to work on your resolution.
Whether it’s a daily planner or my goal for the year I like crossing things off and see how much I have accomplished, even more, I like seeing my failure to accomplish a plan A and admire how great planning has allowed me to fall back on plan B or C
if you like making lists, planning and dreaming then yes have a new day, new week, new month and new year resolution.
My biggest resolution this year is to run a marathon. What’s your biggest resolution this year? whatever it is, I wish you strength and the support to make it happen. #mamacax
If I look at any random picture of myself, I can often tell what year it was taken based on my attire. Every year, as I grow, so does my style. I've always described my style as fluid, eccentric, bold and since I've become an aunty to a couple of kids out there I hope to adopt a mature lewk. As we move forward into a new year, here are 3 tips I recommend for shaking up your wardrobe:
- Let go of gender categories; I often find unique and cheaper items in the "mens" section - Don't be afraid of bold lip colors
- Rules are meant to be broken; if you buy it, make up your own rules.
Have a wonderful 2019! #mamacax#modclothsquad
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“4:00, wallow in self pity
4:30, stare into the abyss;
5:00, solve world hunger..... tell no one;
6:30, dinner with me - I can't cancel that again;
7:00, wrestle with my self-loathing... I'm booked. Of course, if I bump the loathing to 9, I could still be done in time to lay in bed, stare at the ceiling and slip slowly into madness.”
Name my favorite character! #mamacax
Who else is doing their Christmas shopping last minute. Got some goodies from @modcloth problem is I want to keep everything for myself. A gift for the plant lovers 😍. Both the pink flower pot and mini vase set are from ModCloth (zoom in to see what’s written at the bottom of the pink planter)
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@tommyhilfiger ’s Holiday Adaptive Collection is out and once again I’m glad to be showing you some of the pieces and talking about what makes them adaptive. This two-piece suit is perfect for work or a job interview. The pants and the blazer both have magnetic buttons.
#TommyAdaptive has been leading the way when it comes to adaptive clothing and I’m happy to see some workwear in this new collection. Head to my story to see more #tommypartner#mamacax
During fashion week I was walking a show and while backstage someone who was in charge of getting models dressed asked me if I was one of the models- which I thought was odd since I was wearing the same crazy makeup as all the other models, confused, she then asked “ are you gonna walk with the crutches?”, well bien sûr it’s my only option. In a condescending voice she then proceeded to say “well sweetie they are going to walk really fast”
No matter how much some of us advocate for ourselves, or are accomplished, we will always be seen as “lucky” or “brave” -quite unfortunate because words that resonate with me more are brilliant, hard working and passionate but ableism exists and sometimes even when it’s not apparent in action , we hear it everyday because ableist language is a norm. And if we don’t speak up about these things they spread to every aspect of society even policies.
My friend @jillianmercado recently made me aware that Uber WAV (wheelchair accessible vehicle) in L.A are only available until 11pm but only for certain days. (Because duh people in wheelchairs don’t go out at night)
@divadelux says in NY when drivers see her wheelchair they cancel the ride.
I for one have had to call drivers to let them know they were a bit far from my location and that I use crutches so I need exact location pickup ( partly because I’m a diva, partly because I’m paying for a service but also sometimes this knee just refuses to walk the extra block) and as soon as I hang up they cancel the ride.
We 👏🏿 need 👏🏿 to 👏🏿 do 👏🏿 better 🤦🏾♀️